What Wives And Husbands Learn In Marriage Counseling

By Sharon Weeks


A relationship free of squabbles is unnatural. There are always spats and fights that happen between couples. Matrimony in real life always has its ups and downs. Even the couples borne from fairy tales also have problems between them, not only from outside sources that want to break them up.

While most squabbles can be small ones, there are times when the fight is too much for either spouse to handle. If that happens, they might end up considering divorce. This can really signal the demise of a relationship. Unless the couples go through marriage counseling in Chicago, it might be difficult to bounce back from the disagreeable state that a couple is in.

A lot of couples can learn many things through this activity. It helps them grow both as a person and a spouse. It boosts the marriage, help resolve disagreements, and ensure an emotionally healthy partnership between the husband and wife. Here are some important things a couple can learn from going through the said activity.

It is okay to fight. It can sound a bit contradictory but arguments between spouses can actually become a sign that this relationship still has its good foundation. Fighting shows that the couples still care enough about each other. When in a disagreement, do not just walk away. Come to a resolution and then make up.

Be flexible. Allow your spouse to grow. Just because the spouses are already married does not mean you will never change. Th same goes with your partner. Do not be shocked by the development a partner undergoes. You better make sure that a spouse does not go down the wrong path though.

The partnership between the husband and wife must be placed as a top priority. After all, this is a primary relationship and should never be put second to any other, be that with the relationship to parents or to children. When it comes to decision-making, consult and discuss with the partner. Letting your partner know he or she comes first should make him or her feel valued and cherished.

Show enthusiasm when saying hello. Couples can get separated from their spouse for a long period of time. Just because the two of you are already tied up in marriage though, that does not mean that you can greet him or her when he or she comes home by just glancing up and saying hi. You have to greet him as enthusiastically as you can. Coming home will become sweeter.

Never forget to say thank you. This is just common courtesy. If one can say thank you to a complete stranger for doing something that pleases you, it is only natural to show gratitude to your beloved spouse for doing something that makes you happy. In fact, it might be a good idea to say thanks every night.

Get good feedback. It does not matter if the relationship with one's spouse has already gone on for a long period of time. Asking him or her if he or she knows how much you love him or her will help the relationship in a good way. Let your spouse know that he or she is appreciated. Moreover, you should also know for yourself that you are appreciated. Just ask the right question.




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