There are these moments during particular days where I have to be surprisingly truthful with myself about what I'm going through and feeling. I know when it is about to come up because I get this wave of power from the top of my neck down to my lower back and I feel my mood morphing and beginning to change. I once was afraid of it...the trickling feeling of water just about dripping down my back. But in time I've learnt the correct way to sit with it.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling up to the surface.
Frequently we go through life not realising that there are things under the surface. We believe that we have totally recovered or have moved on, but actually there are still pieces to the puzzle that have to be put together. Maybe it is only one piece left, maybe it is simply this moment where you need to sit down and get quiet one last time, or possibly it demands more of your attention.
There's an interesting balance between moving forward and mulling over something, whatever the situation may be, and starting to grasp what is going on inside of you. I suspect much of the time when a person is hurt and other people see it they try to tell that person to pick themselves up as fast as possible and forget the past. This information, while planned to be beneficial, isn't actually realistic - as the same person who gave that guidance, in the same scenario, couldn't possibly take it.
The most sensible advice you could give is not to forget as quickly as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is going on deep within. To let it all flow through you. The sole way you can really understand what something really means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the result of things.
Have a honest moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They're life's way of balancing you out. When you attempt to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a bad place. Let life do what it must do to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then move onward. Don't attempt to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to talk with you. Open yourself to emotions and let them talk reason into your heart.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling up to the surface.
Frequently we go through life not realising that there are things under the surface. We believe that we have totally recovered or have moved on, but actually there are still pieces to the puzzle that have to be put together. Maybe it is only one piece left, maybe it is simply this moment where you need to sit down and get quiet one last time, or possibly it demands more of your attention.
There's an interesting balance between moving forward and mulling over something, whatever the situation may be, and starting to grasp what is going on inside of you. I suspect much of the time when a person is hurt and other people see it they try to tell that person to pick themselves up as fast as possible and forget the past. This information, while planned to be beneficial, isn't actually realistic - as the same person who gave that guidance, in the same scenario, couldn't possibly take it.
The most sensible advice you could give is not to forget as quickly as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is going on deep within. To let it all flow through you. The sole way you can really understand what something really means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the result of things.
Have a honest moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They're life's way of balancing you out. When you attempt to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a bad place. Let life do what it must do to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then move onward. Don't attempt to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to talk with you. Open yourself to emotions and let them talk reason into your heart.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need some more content to move forward with your life and recover from a relationship? Try these ex boyfriend quotes out.
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